Marketed as an app for separated parents with children, the Brisbane developed app helps parents to communicate in a secure platform, away from the prying eyes of children.
It also has some bonus features, that aim to prevent any potential flame ups between co-parents. For instance, Divvito flags when a message uses defamatory and/or fiery words and delays the sending of the message, allowing the person writing the message to stop, rethink what they’ve written, take time to consider the consequences of their response and to reflect upon different ways of phrasing the content of the message.
If the writer chooses to leave the message as is, the app takes it upon itself to replace the harsh words with less inflammatory alternatives. Divvito CEO and co-founder Wendy Oxenham explained, instead of calling your ex a ‘dickhead’, your message will be amended to call them a ‘popcorn-head’, which is far less offensive and less likely to start a bigger fight.
Oxenham developed the app using her own experience of divorce. As such, the conversations can be separated into different groups – sports, family events, appointments etc, helping to keep both parents organized and reduce tension.
Another great feature of the app is that it doesn’t display the contents of the message in the push notification, meaning that a child cannot pick up a parent’s phone and accidently see their conversation.
All conversations are stored in the history and cannot be deleted.
Divvito isn’t the first of its kind though. AppClose is another app on the market for co-parents. Similarly, it features a shared calendar, messaging platform, request feature and also has a feature where expenses can be lodged and money transferred.
Coparently is another app on offer, (albeit an expensive option) which allows you to add the kids to the account, enabling them to message both parents about forgotten items, scheduling requests etc. The app also stores important family medical history and emergency and key contacts.
Popular in the USA and Canada, Our Family Wizard is an online platform with accompanying mobile apps that does roughly the same thing as above. It’s one of the oldest and most established of the co-parenting apps. This app logs communication to provide an accurate record for divorce proceedings.
A little different, Cozi is an online calendar program that serves a dual purpose for co-parenting. So, not only can you keep track of shopping lists, meal planning and to do lists, but you can also share a calendar with your ex, use the family journal to track your child’s milestones together and use the to-do list function to track homework assignments and longer term projects.
Other apps on the market include:
- It has the usual shared calendar and expense recording, but also offers a shared journal. This allows you to feel in the loop when your child is with the other parent. It allows for the sharing of news, photos, videos etc. It also has a Wish List, where you can send attachments and discuss future purchases for your child.
- Parenting Apart
- Less of a practical co-parenting app and more of an emotional guide. It includes features including emotional stages for parents and children, adjustment issues and parenting apart challenges.
- In this one, the expense tab is particularly good, allowing parents to record all expenditure and store pictures of receipts.
- Multiple co-parents can be added, so it’s keeps it easy to to keep grandparents and other helpers in the loop.
- Custody Connection
- Custody Junction
Apps like these can be great for co-parents to improve the frequency, quality, and convenience of ongoing communication. It is important to be mindful of the fact that these apps are merely tools to facilitate communication and to assist parents in communicating about issues regarding the children. It does not diminish the responsibility of both parents for their own actions.
If you are struggling with parenting side of your separation and/or feel that your ex is not behaving in accordance with the parenting order you have in place, please contact us.